On Leadership and Dominance
Years ago I was walking down the hallway at my job. A contractor (or supplier or something) tried to hit on me. I had no interest in him at all, so I just kept walking. As I walked past him, he grabbed my wrist to prevent me from leaving. I already had no respect for him at all. When he grabbed me, my respect for him went into the negatives. I wasn’t any more interested in what he had to say because he attempted to use physical force to make me stay there to listen to him. I was actually much less interested in someone who didn’t have the intellectual ability to maintain my interest with intelligent conversation.
Look at your organization. Who is the actual leader? Yes, you have an official supervisor/manager/president. But who is the actual go-to person in the organization? At parties, who gets the most attention? Who do people gather around? Is it the person who throws his/her weight around? The person who is loud and belligerent, who uses anger, curse words, threats, even physical force to get his/her way? Or is it the calm, intelligent, witty person?
Take a look at this video of a teacher using force in the classroom http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=anLS-sekbQQ. Did he gain any one’s respect that day?
Someone who uses a lot of curse words has a limited vocabulary. Someone who resorts to shouting, threats, physical force is out of ideas.
A teacher who uses physical force in the classroom has not be schooled in proper classroom management
If a “trainer” or “behaviorist” instructs you to shake, yell at, poke, hit, yank, jerk your dog, this “trainer” has not spent a lot of time learning operant conditioning.
Imagine if every time you came in late for work, your boss punched you. One of several things might happen depending on what type of person you are. You might quit working there, you might start showing up on time; you might develop an unnatural fear of time clocks, you might punch your boss back. Or you might have a breakdown and attack all of your coworkers.
Excessive force might work on some dogs. But it also has the capability to permanently damage a dog and it can turn a dog defensive and aggressive.
A lot of trainers talk about dominance, leadership, being the pack leader. But dominance and leadership are not synonymous with physical coercion and/or threats. Leadership is exactly the opposite of coercion. Real leaders don’t use threats or physical force. Real leaders frighten people into following them.
You might see a submissive dog roll over on his/her back for a dominant dog. But you won’t see a balanced alpha dog push over a dog. The submissive dog chose to rollover out of reverence and respect for the alpha dog.
So the next time, you feel like yelling at your dog because she/he did something that’s perfectly natural for dogs, think about that out of control school teacher, think of that crazy boss who yelled till she/he was red in the face, the one whom no one respected. Think about what it really means to be the leader of your pack.
So what are some alternatives to physical coersion, yelling etc..
Desired Behavior Old Method Non Aversive, positve Method
Sit Push down on butt and/or pull up on leash lure into sit with treats, no touching or
wait until dog sits, praise and treat (capturing)
Lay down Pull down by the collar lure into down with treats, no touching or
wait until the dog lays
Stop Barking Yell at the dog Ignore barking; praise and treat quiet
Loose Leash Walking Yanking, jerking the leash Turn around or, stop walking when dog pulls
Youtube Kiko Pup Channel – http://www.youtube.com/user/kikopup
On Talking Terms with Dogs: Calming Signals – Turid Rugaas http://www.amazon.com/Talking-Terms-Dogs-Calming-Signals/dp/1929242360/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1296261854&sr=8-1
The Other End of the Leash – Patricial McConnell: http://www.amazon.com/Other-End-Leash-What-Around/dp/034544678X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1296262410&sr=8-1
Bones Would Rain From the Sky: http://www.amazon.com/Bones-Would-Rain-Sky-Relationships/dp/044669634X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1296264749&sr=8-1
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